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My Son’s Advice: Renting is Better Than Owning

For some reason, my son and I keep having discussions about renting a home versus owning home, which we finally do.  Though his understanding of the concepts is obviously limited, I’m continually amazed at his determination and the lucidity of his arguments with his limited debating ammunition.

stomperThe crux of all these discussions is pretty simple: he wants to thrash the place, and since we now own our home we’ve become a lot stricter about keeping things clean.  He has trouble understanding why he can’t now put his dirty feet on the walls whenever he chooses (somehow his feet seem to end up on the wall more often than his hands do, but the hands contribute as well).  He is unhappy that he can’t bring his muddy shoes in the kitchen anymore.  He’s upset that we don’t allow him to hang his ever expanding body off the cabinet doors anymore or do “swingies” from our new refrigerator.

In his mind, this all comes down the fact that we own now instead of rent, and he’s right.  But obviously my wife and I get a little irked when we saved our whole lives for this and he says things like, “I HATE THIS HOUSE!!  I JUST WANT TO RENT OUR OLD HOUSE AGAIN!” continue…


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Document the Radness

This is a page I wish I had started much sooner, and it will be one I’ll add to as time goes on and as we remember past radnesses. Pretty much every parent will tell you to take as many photos and videos as possible, which is of course good advice. But there are even more moments of radness that happen when the camera is nowhere near. I recommend keeping a journal or a blog such as this to document such moments, particularly the amazing things your child says at such a young age. If you don’t, you’re likely to forget, and that’s a shame because your child is going to say some doozies:

“Calah is the best. In fact, I’ve fallen in love with her.”(age 5, when asked what he thinks of our new housecleaner) continue…


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Don’t Listen to Me

As I say in my About page, I’m not any kind of professional when it comes to parenting. There’s no real way to measure this, but I’m not even sure if I’m even what’s considered a “good” dad. All I know is that I really love my son and I have a lot of fun being a dad, and I’m pretty sure my son loves me a ton and is having fun, too.

So, I don’t intend to make this blog an advice column or anything. With that said, I have some experiences, techniques, tips, insights, etc. that have worked for me that I’ll occasionally share. There is no official manual to parenting, and there is no right or wrong way to do it. Well, I can think of some really WRONG ways to do it, but my point is there are thousands of different ways to raise a kid and only the parents can decide for themselves what’s best for them and best for their child. continue…


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Oh well…

As I’ve probably mentioned before, I sort of began this site at the urging of many people who told me I was a good writer/storyteller. A lot of my friends are long distance, so when they ask me what’s going on I go into these long, detailed stories about all the adventures my son and I have together. They seem to get a kick out of it and tell me things like, “You should write a book!”, or “You should be writing this down!” Or, when I talk to my friends face to face, it’s hard for me to control my enthusiasm for all things being a dad, both good and bad, so echo similar sentiments.

So, I guess I was thinking I was all hot sh*t in this writing thing (despite having no direct experience in this field), because a while back I submitted a story to a company that’s creating interactive adventures for parents and their children. Well, apparently my ego needed a nice knock down to reality, because they didn’t accept the story. I guess I suck after all, but I’m still going to keep writing on this sucker! continue…


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Don’t Be a Cool Guy

I’m a bit different. I get that. I get sensitive, and I can’t always hide it. I express myself, and not always in the smoothest of ways. I can be a spazz, even when not in the presence of my son. I’m not Fonzie. I’m not one of those quiet, brooding guys who stands stoically off to the side that makes you go, “I wonder what he’s thinking?” I have a propensity to do things outside of the realm of what might be considered “cool”.

I get that. While I get along with pretty much everyone, I do a lot of things that most guys wouldn’t do because it would jeopardize their Coolness Quotient. But if I could give a bit of advice it would be this: don’t be a Cool Guy at the expense of your child. continue…


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Don’t Focus on What You’ve Sacrificed; Focus on What You’ve GAINED

I’m trying to stay away from providing too many personal details on this site, but let’s just say my life before fatherhood was good. I was really, really content. After struggling for several years in office jobs trying to figure out my path, an opportunity to have a career that focused on one of my passions was presented to me. It was kind of sketchy and scary at first, but after a while I realized I could do this as a career, from home, with a flexible schedule. It was/is still a lot of work, but I found that I get so much more work done when I’m motivated to do it, and I quickly excelled in this position. I don’t make a ton of money, but who cares as long as it’s enough and you love what you’re doing, right? continue…


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The Best Piece of Advice I Ever Got

The best piece of advice I ever got is extremely simple, yet at times extremely hard to follow: never wish for that “next stage”.  When talking with other dads, I constantly hear things like, “I just can’t wait until she walks.”, or, “I just can’t wait until he can throw a ball with me.”  Believe me, your children will get there sooner than you think, and suddenly you’ll be thinking, “Where did all that time go??” I was so fortunate to get this bit of advice before my son was born, and I’ve tried to keep it in mind at all times, particularly when I get tired or frustrated. continue…